My Letter to You who Spend a lot of Time Apologizing

I was thinking why do you think that it was always your fault every time you are in a fight? Ganon nalang ba kababa tingin mo sa sarili mo? Na sa tingin mo, wala ka laging ginagawang tama? Or iniisip mo lagi na kailangan mong i-pleased lahat ng tao sa paligid mo? Na kaya pag nagalit or nagtampo sila, ikaw lagi ang hihingi ng tawad? If you answered YES sa lahat ng tanong ko, then there’s really something wrong with you. I’m not saying na maling magsabi ng sorry. If you know that may nagawa kang mali, then say it. But if ikaw naman yung unang nasaktan, it wasn’t your fault already. Tama diba? Di ka naman masasaktan kung hindi ka sinaktan. Pero bakit ikaw pa yung hihingi ng tawad? Para maging maayos na lang ang lahat? Hindi laging ganyan ang solusyon sa mga ganitong klaseng problema. The other person should know their mistakes too. They should show you how sorry they are too. If they don’t, then you’re not helping them, instead you’re just tolerating them to hurt you again. Iisipin nila na, “ay okay lang pala sa kanya na gawin ko ‘to, kase hindi ko naman mali pag nasaktan sya, kasalanan nya na yon.” Ganito ba yung gusto mong isipin nila sayo? Oo nalang kase mahal mo? Isa kang malaking tanga. 

How other people turn the situation around to make you look like the bad guy even if you are the one who’s angry because the other person hurt you. Yung mga pa-victim palagi. Sabagay, sino bang hindi matinong taong aamin sa kasalanan nila? Yung willing nila i-sacrifice yung iba para sa kaligayahan nila, para sa sarili nila. Diba ang selfish? Tapos hahayaan mo nalang, magso-sorry ka nalang para matapos nalang ang usapan? Isa kang malaking tanga. 

When other people always blame you for what was happening, mag-isip isip ka na po. These people don’t and cannot love you. The real person who cares are those who can accept you as who you are; those who never blame you for any mistake that you do and you don’t do; yung kaya kang mahalin nang hindi mo kailangang i-sakripisyo yung sarili mo para maging maayos lang kayo. 

Kaya please, STOP saying sorry, STOP feeling guilty, and STOP begging. Hindi ka laging mali, dahil sa taong mahal ka, ikaw ang isa sa mga tanging naging tama sa buhay nya.

Cheering you on,  
Me :)